I share those same complaints Mopper. They’re why I say the J250 could never be suitable as any kind of bug-out vehicle (pardon the cringy jargon). I have come to strongly dislike the safety tech. I understand and appreciate it in theory (I have seen how my fellow road users drive and thinks it’s probably best for the average driver), but it’s not for me.
That being said, I’m pretty sure you can fully turn off the driver monitoring system. It’s been a while since I did it but I haven’t gotten alerts in months. EOD Guy’s settings pdf file has it listed.
Edit: worth saving this pdf:
Dash Menu/Settings items